Wednesday, December 30, 2009
I am most definitely not the jealous type. I have no problems giving a black woman her props. I love to see, hear of and observe successful black women. I love women who take pride in their appearance, walking with confidence, and displaying inner and outer beauty. Even the ones who don’t have all that going for them still get my smiles. I just love my black sisters. I give instant respect whenever one is in my presence. I come in contact with many black women in my building most of them strangers. When I run across a lady looking fly and hip I will say “girl love your outfit”. She always seems to brighten up and melt with a thank you. If a woman has a sharp hair do I will compliment her. Women love for other women to compliment them because it’s sincere. When it’s coming from a man you always think of motive. Is he trying to get some ass; or get my phone number to eventually get some ass? You appreciate the attention but in the back of your mind you wonder.
Some sisters seem to have a problem with you because you take pride in your appearance and would rather have their 10 toe nails ripped out with pliers then compliment you. Why is that? Why do some black women get threatened because you are attractive? Why feel that way. Be proud of each other. It’s not about if she is better looking, or makes more money, etc. Black women have a tendency to demean or turn up their noses at other women vs. being inspired by that woman. By nature I am shy, always friendly but shy. I don’t say much. The only people in my life who have really known for me to be very verbal are my men. I have no problem letting them know how I feel. That’s just me, like it, love it or hate it. Perfect example I stand outside every day after working waiting on the Express commuter bus. I have been catching the bus for the past year and ½. In my way out of the building or crossing the street I run into women who stand in the same general area as me and I always say a friendly hello or have a good night. I have never joined any of the groups of women. As mentioned by nature I am shy but always friendly. Well some of these women won’t even speak when I speak; yet I speak every day anyway. I choose not be ignorant just because they are. I’ve often wondered is it because I don’t kiss ass and want to be in their clique and they see me as being standoffish? I don’t think it’s that. Honestly, I think they just don’t like me because I look good. Women are often threatened or intimidated by a nice looking woman. I’m never rude; I still speak and smile. I just choose to stand off by myself and wait for the bus. If I was nasty and face always frowned up I could see them having a problem with the lady who don’t ever speak and stands over there every day. But that is definitely not the case.
In corporate America it is way worse especially if a black woman is walking with a white co-worker. Is it taboo to smile at another black woman? Some black women kill me with that; it is so unnecessary. We need to stick together. At least acknowledge each other existence. We have an incredible history that should bind us all to each other. There is no point to ever be jealous of another woman. There will always be another woman who is more attractive than you. Granted I think I am attractive but I know there has to be at least thousands, if not more other women who make me look like shit. She may make a hell of lot more money than you, you maybe in a Chevy Cavalier and she is rolling in a Mercedes Truck, etc, etc. That is all good! Be happy for her and if you would like to get where she is one day use her to motivate you. Let’s stop all the hate; it’s so unnecessary and extremely divisive.
Some sisters seem to have a problem with you because you take pride in your appearance and would rather have their 10 toe nails ripped out with pliers then compliment you. Why is that? Why do some black women get threatened because you are attractive? Why feel that way. Be proud of each other. It’s not about if she is better looking, or makes more money, etc. Black women have a tendency to demean or turn up their noses at other women vs. being inspired by that woman. By nature I am shy, always friendly but shy. I don’t say much. The only people in my life who have really known for me to be very verbal are my men. I have no problem letting them know how I feel. That’s just me, like it, love it or hate it. Perfect example I stand outside every day after working waiting on the Express commuter bus. I have been catching the bus for the past year and ½. In my way out of the building or crossing the street I run into women who stand in the same general area as me and I always say a friendly hello or have a good night. I have never joined any of the groups of women. As mentioned by nature I am shy but always friendly. Well some of these women won’t even speak when I speak; yet I speak every day anyway. I choose not be ignorant just because they are. I’ve often wondered is it because I don’t kiss ass and want to be in their clique and they see me as being standoffish? I don’t think it’s that. Honestly, I think they just don’t like me because I look good. Women are often threatened or intimidated by a nice looking woman. I’m never rude; I still speak and smile. I just choose to stand off by myself and wait for the bus. If I was nasty and face always frowned up I could see them having a problem with the lady who don’t ever speak and stands over there every day. But that is definitely not the case.
In corporate America it is way worse especially if a black woman is walking with a white co-worker. Is it taboo to smile at another black woman? Some black women kill me with that; it is so unnecessary. We need to stick together. At least acknowledge each other existence. We have an incredible history that should bind us all to each other. There is no point to ever be jealous of another woman. There will always be another woman who is more attractive than you. Granted I think I am attractive but I know there has to be at least thousands, if not more other women who make me look like shit. She may make a hell of lot more money than you, you maybe in a Chevy Cavalier and she is rolling in a Mercedes Truck, etc, etc. That is all good! Be happy for her and if you would like to get where she is one day use her to motivate you. Let’s stop all the hate; it’s so unnecessary and extremely divisive.
Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 5:41 PM
Angie's signing off for now...feel free to read me again! Until the Next time Stay Blessed and Humble. Peace!
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